Rapper MC Breed dies at friend's home at age 37

Rapper MC Breed dies at friend's home at age 37

YPSILANTI, Mich. – It was in the gritty, blue-collar city of Flint that Eric Breed grew up amid the dimming opportunities of a declining auto industry.

That starkness was vivid in the lyrics of what would be the rapper's biggest hit, 1991's "Ain't No Future in Yo' Frontin'."

Breed, known professionally as MC Breed, died Saturday at a friend's home in Ypsilanti, about 30 miles southwest of Detroit, a Washtenaw County medical examiner's spokesman said Monday.

Toxicology reports were pending, but no foul play was suspected in the 37-year-old's death.

Breed had suffered from kidney failure, according to The Detroit News and The Flint Journal.

"More than just an artist, we mourn the loss of a beloved father, son, brother and friend," his family said in a statement. "We are thankful and blessed to have been in his presence and want him to be remembered for his creative, caring, talented and hardworking spirit."

Breed released 13 albums from 1991 to 2004, and collaborated with artists such as Tupac Shakur and Too Short.

He moved to Atlanta in the 1990s, but always identified with his tough Flint roots.

The lyrics from "Ain't No Future in Yo' Frontin'" included: "I'm from F-l-i-n-t'n. A city where pity runs low. If you ever shoot through my city, now you know. Cause we are strictly business and we also got our pride, and if you don't like it, I suggest you break wide."

The single was from his first album, "MC Breed & DFC," which sold between 2.5 million to 4 million copies.

Breed was a "musical legend of Flint," said Carter McWright, owner of local record store Music Planet.

"One thing about Breed is he had that flow, that rhythm," McWright said. "He knew how to flow with it."

Funeral arrangements were being completed Monday in Flint.

Breed is survived by three daughters and two sons; his parents; two brothers; and a sister.

A change is gonna come

"Oh there been times that I thought that I couldn't last for long
But now I think I'm able to carry on
It's been a long, a long time coming
But I know that a change gonna come, Oh yes it will"
-----Sam Cooke

Last night, I watched with tears welling up in my eyes as Barack Obama gave his victory speech. As I watched this moment, I thought about this historic moment and how this will impact not only the rest of the world, but my family. I thought about all of the racism that they faced in rural Virginia, the '68 riots in DC, and other situations that they had to endure. I watched this man, and my mind flashed back to the first time that I ever heard the "I Have a Dream" speech given by King.

This is a historic moment that every history book should have a chapter dedicated to. The day that Barack Obama will not only be the 44th president, but be the first black President of the United States was elected.

After the speech, I turned away briefly to answer the many IM's that was popping up on my computer screen when I heard the words "uncle tom". I turned around only to see the people on Fox News with a look of shock on their faces as they immediately dismissed the words of Ralph Nader. (I know the man is bitter) But my victory turned to anger. Our forefathers have fought for soo long for us to have the right to vote and here is this man ready to stomp on the victory of another man because he is bitter. How dare you?!?! Ralph Nader needs to crawl back under the rock that he found solace in, or the spaceship that can whisk him to his parallel universe, and get over it.

and you thought that the American people has issues.....

Online divorcee jailed after killing virtual hubby

TOKYO – A 43-year-old Japanese woman whose sudden divorce in a virtual game world made her so angry that she killed her online husband's digital persona has been arrested on suspicion of hacking, police said Thursday.

The woman, who is jailed on suspicion of illegally accessing a computer and manipulating electronic data, used his identification and password to log onto popular interactive game "Maple Story" to carry out the virtual murder in mid-May, a police official in northern Sapporo said on condition of anonymity, citing department policy.

"I was suddenly divorced, without a word of warning. That made me so angry," the official quoted her as telling investigators and admitting the allegations.

The woman had not plotted any revenge in the real world, the official said.

She has not yet been formally charged, but if convicted could face a prison term of up to five years or a fine up to $5,000.

Players in "Maple Story" raise and manipulate digital images called "avatars" that represent themselves, while engaging in relationships, social activities and fighting against monsters and other obstacles.

The woman used login information she got from the 33-year-old office worker when their characters were happily married, and killed the character. The man complained to police when he discovered that his beloved online avatar was dead.

The woman was arrested Wednesday and was taken across the country, traveling 620 miles from her home in southern Miyazaki to be detained in Sappporo, where the man lives, the official said.

The police official said he did not know if she was married in the real world.

In recent years, virtual lives have had consequences in the real world. In August, a woman was charged in Delaware with plotting the real-life abduction of a boyfriend she met through "Second Life," another virtual interactive world.

In Tokyo, police arrested a 16-year-old boy on charges of swindling virtual currency worth $360,000 in an interactive role playing game by manipulating another player's portfolio using a stolen ID and password.

Virtual games are popular in Japan, and "Second Life" has drawn a fair number of Japanese participants. They rank third by nationality among users, after Americans and Brazilians.

DOLEMITE IS DEAD: We remember legendary funnyman Rudy Ray Moore.

DOLEMITE IS DEAD: We remember legendary funnyman Rudy Ray Moore.
(October 20, 2008)

*EUR has learned that after an extended illness, seminal comedian Rudy Ray Moore, better known as Dolemite, has died in Akron, Ohio. He was 81.

EUR was initially informed of the news by comedienne Luenell, a friend of the family.

Moore, whose actual name was Rudolph Frank Moore, passed away from complications of diabetes, his only child and daughter, Yvette "Rusty" Wesson, told us.

According to Wikipedia, Moore is perhaps best known as Dolemite, the uniquely articulate pimp (“… rappin’ & tappin’ is my game!”) from the 1975 film "Dolemite," and its sequel, "The Human Tornado." The persona was developed during his earlier stand-up comedy records.

Rudy Ray Moore was also known as the "king of the party records" and released many comedy records throughout the 1960s and 1970s, developing a style even more rude and explicit than contemporaries like Redd Foxx and Richard Pryor. This kept him off of television and major films, but cultivated an enduring fan base. He also guested on Big Daddy Kane's CD Taste of Chocolate, released in 1990.

The 2 Live Crew used Rudy Ray Moore's records as scratch samples on their early work; most notably on "Throw The Di*k."

Moore starred in "Big Money Hustlas," a movie created by and starring the Insane Clown Posse, in which he played Dolemite for the first time in over 20 years.

In 2008 Rudy Ray Moore reprised the character Petey Wheatstraw for the song "I live for the Funk" Featuring Blowfly and Daniel Jordan. This marked the first time Blowfly and Rudy have collaborated on the same record together, and the 30 year anniversary since the movie was filmed.

Moore began his entertainment career as an R&B singer and continued singing through his comedy career. He developed an interest in comedy in the Army after expanding on a singing performance for other servicemen.

Besides his daughter, Moore also leaves behind his 98 year-old mother Lucille. Although, Wesson couldn't tell us the exact dates, funeral services will be in Akron, Ohio as well as Spokane, Washington where his mother and the rest of his immediate family lives.

Palin Is Ready? Please.

Fareed Zakaria
Palin Is Ready? Please.

McCain says that he always puts country first. In this important case, that is simply not true.



Will someone please put Sarah Palin out of her agony? Is it too much to ask that she come to realize that she wants, in that wonderful phrase in American politics, "to spend more time with her family"? Having stayed in purdah for weeks, she finally agreed to a third interview. CBS's Katie Couric questioned her in her trademark sympathetic style. It didn't help. When asked how living in the state closest to Russia gave her foreign-policy experience, Palin responded thus:

"It's very important when you consider even national-security issues with Russia as Putin rears his head and comes into the airspace of the United States of America. Where—where do they go? It's Alaska. It's just right over the border. It is from Alaska that we send those out to make sure that an eye is being kept on this very powerful nation, Russia, because they are right there. They are right next to—to our state."

There is, of course, the sheer absurdity of the premise. Two weeks ago I flew to Tokyo, crossing over the North Pole. Does that make me an expert on Santa Claus? (Thanks, Jon Stewart.) But even beyond that, read the rest of her response. "It is from Alaska that we send out those …" What does this mean? This is not an isolated example. Palin has been given a set of talking points by campaign advisers, simple ideological mantras that she repeats and repeats as long as she can. ("We mustn't blink.") But if forced off those rehearsed lines, what she has to say is often, quite frankly, gibberish.

Couric asked her a smart question about the proposed $700 billion bailout of the American financial sector. It was designed to see if Palin understood that the problem in this crisis is that credit and liquidity in the financial system has dried up, and that that's why, in the estimation of Treasury Secretary Hank Paulson and Fed chairman Ben Bernanke, the government needs to step in to buy up Wall Street's most toxic liabilities. Here's the entire exchange:

COURIC: Why isn't it better, Governor Palin, to spend $700 billion helping middle-class families who are struggling with health care, housing, gas and groceries; allow them to spend more and put more money into the economy instead of helping these big financial institutions that played a role in creating this mess?

PALIN: That's why I say I, like every American I'm speaking with, were ill about this position that we have been put in where it is the taxpayers looking to bail out. But ultimately, what the bailout does is help those who are concerned about the health-care reform that is needed to help shore up our economy, helping the—it's got to be all about job creation, too, shoring up our economy and putting it back on the right track. So health-care reform and reducing taxes and reining in spending has got to accompany tax reductions and tax relief for Americans. And trade, we've got to see trade as opportunity, not as a competitive, scary thing. But one in five jobs being created in the trade sector today, we've got to look at that as more opportunity. All those things under the umbrella of job creation. This bailout is a part of that.

This is nonsense—a vapid emptying out of every catchphrase about economics that came into her head. Some commentators, like CNN's Campbell Brown, have argued that it's sexist to keep Sarah Palin under wraps, as if she were a delicate flower who might wilt under the bright lights of the modern media. But the more Palin talks, the more we see that it may not be sexism but common sense that's causing the McCain campaign to treat her like a time bomb.

Can we now admit the obvious? Sarah Palin is utterly unqualified to be vice president. She is a feisty, charismatic politician who has done some good things in Alaska. But she has never spent a day thinking about any important national or international issue, and this is a hell of a time to start. The next administration is going to face a set of challenges unlike any in recent memory. There is an ongoing military operation in Iraq that still costs $10 billion a month, a war against the Taliban in Afghanistan and Pakistan that is not going well and is not easily fixed. Iran, Russia and Venezuela present tough strategic challenges.

Domestically, the bailout and reform of the financial industry will take years and hundreds of billions of dollars. Health-care costs, unless curtailed, will bankrupt the federal government. Social Security, immigration, collapsing infrastructure and education are all going to get much worse if they are not handled soon.

And the American government is stretched to the limit. Between the Bush tax cuts, homeland-security needs, Iraq, Afghanistan and the bailout, the budget is looking bleak. Plus, within a few years, the retirement of the baby boomers begins with its massive and rising costs (in the trillions).

Obviously these are very serious challenges and constraints. In these times, for John McCain to have chosen this person to be his running mate is fundamentally irresponsible. McCain says that he always puts country first. In this important case, it is simply not true.

House arrest for attack cat.. I'm glad this is not MY CAT!

House arrest for attack cat
Fairfield neighbors terrorized by Lewis
DANIEL TEPFER dtepfer@ctpost.com
Article Last Updated: 04/07/2006 01:40:52 PM EDT


A ferocious feline terrorized a quiet Fairfield neighborhood, to the point that residents are seeking help from the law to stop the so-called "Terrorist of Sunset Circle."
Lewis, a 5-year-old, black-and-white longhaired cat, attacked at least a half-dozen people on the cul-de-sac and even took on the local Avon lady, neighbors say.

"He looks like Felix the Cat and has six toes on each foot each with a long claw," Sunset Circle resident Janet Kettman said. "They are formidable weapons."

Kettman said Lewis attacked her twice.

"I was walking along the sidewalk when he sprang at me. I never saw it coming, but that's how it often is. He comes at you from behind, springs and wraps himself around your legs, biting and scratching," she said. "The last time I had three bites and eight scratches and I ended up at the walk-in clinic.

"The Avon lady was getting out of her car when Lewis attacked her from behind," Kettman said. "She ended up going to the hospital."

Kettman called the Fairfield Police Department's animal control officer.

"I don't feel the cat could kill anybody, but it could latch onto people's legs and arms and bite and scratch to the point where they could be hospitalized," said Animal Control Officer Rachel Solveira.

Solveira was so concerned about Lewis' attacks in the neighborhood of neatly kept homes off High Street that she placed a restraining order on him. It was the first time such an action was taken against a cat in Fairfield and possibly in the state. In effect, Lewis is under house arrest, forbidden to leave his home.
Solveira also arrested the cat's owner, Ruth Cisero, of High Street, first for failing to comply with the restraining order and then for reckless endangerment.

At first, the restraining order allowed the cat limited freedom if Cisero gave him Prozac. But the cat refused to take the drug, Cisero said. And it got out of the house and attacked another neighbor, Maureen Bachtig, according to police.

"I felt Lewis' claw on my left leg and I shook him loose, he then lunged and clung to my right leg, leaving one very deep puncture wound, one long deep gash across the top of my knee," Bachtig told police. She refused to discuss the incident with a reporter. Meanwhile, the Avon lady, Donna Greenstein, filed a lawsuit in Superior Court against Cisero. She refused to comment on the case.

A tearful Cisero said the neighbors have spun the situation out of control.

"I've tried to tell them to just stay away from Lewis and he will stay away from you; this has caused complete havoc for me," said Cisero, who has applied to the court for accelerated rehabilitation — for the cat.

Cisero said she adopted Lewis three years ago and he never attacked her or any members of her family. "He's a cat's cat, he climbs trees and sits on people's roofs but now he's forced to be in the house all the time."

She theorized that Lewis may be acting in self-defense. "One day he came home covered in eggs because someone had egged him and another time a woman sprayed him with a hose. They have been tormenting this poor animal."

But Bachtig sees a more sinister side to the feline.

"The neighborhood is afraid of this cat," Bachtig said. "Lewis will stare you down, and you never know how he will react."

Comment on NYC's students report cards

Supposedly these are actual comments made on students' report cards by teachers in the New York City public school system.

All teachers were reprimanded but, boy, are these funny!!!

1. Since my last report, your child has reached rock bottom and has started to dig.
2. I would not allow this student to breed..
3. Your child has delusions of adequacy.
4. Your son is depriving a village somewhere of an 'idiot'.
5. Your son sets low personal standards, and then consistently fails to achieve them.
6. The student has a "full six-pack" but lacks the plastic thing to hold it all together.
7. This child has been working with glue too much.
8. When your daughter's IQ reaches 50, she should sell.
9. The gates are down, the lights are flashing, but the train isn't coming.
10. If this student were any more stupid, he'd have to be watered twice a week.
11. It is impossible to believe the sperm that created this child beat out 1,000,000 others.
12. The wheel is turning, but the hamster is definitely dead.

Excerpt from Ne-Yo Essence interview

Ne-Yo: Still Standing
After his dismissal from a national tour, R&B sensation Ne-Yo opens up about what really happened between him and The Pied Piper
By Kenya N. Byrd

Credit: Ellen VonUnwerth

Essence.com: Wow. So would you be willing to sit down and talk if he ever reached out to you?

N.Y.: Absolutely, I don’t hate R. Kelly. There won’t be no diss records—we don’t do that in R&B. Seriously, I looked up to R. Kelly as an artist, and still do, but I don’t have respect for him as a man. I was happy to join the tour. I’m a man, so I don’t disrespect other men. I would still be open to talk to him. But his not coming to me directly was blatant disrespect, because he didn’t even view me as someone important enough to show respect to by talking to me man-to-man. If you have issues with me, then be man enough to come to me personally, but instead he had his people do it and then they said it wasn’t him but that the promoters asked me to be removed from the tour and that’s b---sh--.

Essence.com: You’ve been the target of many rumors, but I love that you keep it moving. Let’s address the rumor regarding your financial dispute with your son’s mom, who was supposedly getting evicted due to your refusing to pay child support. Is that true?

N.Y.: There is truth to some of it. She was being evicted because I refused to pay her rent any longer once I found out her child was not my biological son. But I’ve been his father since the day he came on his earth so I told her anything he needs I got him, but you are a grown a-- woman with working arms and legs—ain’t nothing wrong with you so go get yourself a job.

Essence.com: Why in the world would she try to take you to court after you agreed to give financial support in raising her son?

N.Y.: She wasn’t happy with the amount I offered to give her and said, ‘No, I need more.’ So she decided to take me to court. I asked her why and told her she wouldn’t win because he was not my biological son. So I said, ‘Fine, you get nothing. Let’s go to court.’

Essence.com: Whoa! So why did you wait to get a blood test?

N.Y.: Well, she told me when she got pregnant that it could be between me and another guy, so I knew that from the beginning. When the baby was born everyone assumed that he was mine because he looked so much like me so no one really questioned it except my mother because she never trusted her and urged me to get a blood test.

Essence.com: How did that discovery affect you?

N.Y.: It hurt me for a minute, but you know....

Essence.com: Do you still see him?

N.Y.: No, because she doesn’t allow me to, so what can I do? As a mother she has the right, I don’t.

Essence.com: Fortunately, your mom encouraged you to get a blood test done. You’ve said that your mom always looks out and was even ready to knuckle up when rumors first surfaced about you being gay.

N.Y.: (Laughs) Yeah, my mom is my dawg. When she heard the rumors that I was gay she was like, ‘Who do I have to pay a visit? Who’s a-- do I have to kick?’

Essence.com: And your initial reaction to folks questioning your sexuality?

N.Y.: Honestly, when I first heard that there were rumors out there about me being gay I thought, Wow someone must really hate me. There’s nothing wrong with being gay, but I just couldn’t understand why someone would make up lies like that. I remember speaking to Jay-Z about it and he was like, ‘Look, man you haven’t made it until someone says you’re gay.”

Essence.com: And what about now?

N.Y.: Nah, I don’t even think about that mess anymore. Once it’s said, it ain’t nothing you can do but ignore it.

Essence.com: Once you addressed the rumor that you and Hayden Panettiere (the cheerleader from Heroes) were dating and offered an explanation as to why there were photos of the two of you hand-in-hand— you were helping her out of her car so she wouldn’t mess up her shoes—they really continued with the gay comments.

N.Y.: (Laughs) Okay, so because I can respect a woman’s shoe game, and not to mention that I’ve bought a few pairs of shoes in the past for the women in my life, that makes me gay? That’s hilarious.

Essence.com: Well, before you go, I have to go in the crate and dust off an old scandal regarding the photo, which shows you and a young lady being graphically intimate.

N.Y.: Oh yeah, that’s really old. Someone hacked into a phone and retrieved that photo and put it on the Internet.

Essence.com: So did the young lady freak out because she was caught in an uncompromising position?

N.Y.: Nah, I’m grown, she grown. I just need to be more careful where I put my personal things. Besides it’s grown-folks business. It ain’t the first photo and it sure won’t be the last.

Off the Market

Yes I am off the market! More information is forthcoming.

Ne-Yo??? Gay???

Singer Ne-yo Announces He Is Gay. Essence Magazine newly famed singer/songwriter has came out of the closet and announced that he is gay. The multi-platinum recording artist sat down with Essence Magazine last week and announced the shocking news stating, "Yes, I am gay, and I have always been." After several internet rumors have been circulating around the internet. He also said, "You now this world we live in is full of judgement, resulting in one of the reasons why it took me so long to come out of the closet." Earlier this month, a man by the name of Derrick Johnson claimed that he had an intimate relationship with the singer during there teen years in high school. He also said that for months the singer and Def Jam has been trying to pay him to keep quiet over the ordeal. Worrying that it would destroy his image. Ne-yo responds saying, that the relationship did occur and he is no longer ashamed of saying that he was deeply in love. Reciting "That
situation was what inspired me to write the song Unfaithful. But no one knew it was actually about myself, and our relationship. " He told Essence that he doesn't care anymore, he was tired of living a lie and is ready to come clean. Quoting, "the music industry can either except me for who I am, or desert me."

12-year-old girl drove mom to bar

Texas police say 12-year-old girl drove mom to bar

LONGVIEW, Texas - A 35-year-old Texas woman has been jailed after police say she made her 12-year-old daughter drive her to a bar.
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Police in Longview say they watched a minivan turn into a driveway without signaling on Wednesday and bump into a home at a low speed. They say the car was driven by Jennifer Lynn Rosenberg's daughter.

Police say the girl told an officer she had just dropped her mother off at a bar. They say they found Rosenburg at the bar and that she admitted having her daughter drive her there.

Rosenburg remains in the Gregg County Jail on a $2,500 bond. A jail official declined to say whether she had an attorney.

A spokeswoman for Child Protective Services told the Longview News-Journal that the agency is investigating.

Man banned from girlfriend's home after noisy sex

Man banned from girlfriend's home after noisy sex

LONDON - A British man has been banned from visiting his girlfriend's home after neighbors complained about noisy sex, a local official said Thursday.
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A court barred Adam Hinton, 32, from being within 110 yards of his 29-year-old girlfriend Kerry Norris' apartment, Brighton and Hove City Council spokesman Mike Taggart said.

Residents of Norris's publicly owned home had been complaining since 2006 about thumping music, banging headboards and screamed obscenities, Taggart said.

Neighbors also complained about Norris sunbathing naked in her yard, and were upset that a 6-year-old child in the building had been "subjected to the sort of obscenities you wouldn't want a 6-year-old to hear," the spokesman said.

"She is a classic nightmare neighbor," Taggart said, insisting the case was not about sex. "It's about allowing your neighbors to have a normal decent life without being disturbed."

The court granted the city council's request for an injunction banning Hinton from the apartment because Norris had ignored a previous court order demanding that she be more quiet, Taggart said.

Norris last week was forced to pay $560 in fines and court costs for breaking the "noise abatement order," Taggart said.

Neither Norris or Hinton could be immediately located for comment. Brighton and Hove is located in southern England.

The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

Well I know that I haven't had much to say in a while, 'cause a sista has been working hard, playing harder, and taking hits all the way around. Let me explain the good, bad, and ugly of things....

The bad news:
I lost another one of my friends last month. Razzberri Beauti was a very beautiful plus-sized model that I had the pleasure of being her photographer since last November. She could light up a room and knew her way around the kitchen. She will definitely be missed. She is still in my photo gallery on Thunda Graphics (www.thundagraphics.com), and will be there until the updated site is released in about a week or so.


The good news:
Well I am officially back on the dating scene, in a sense. In the past few weeks, I have been on a couple of dates. That is the best record I have had since moving back here in '06. All were very interesting to say the least. One was with a guy that I went to high school with. After that date, I realized why we didn't really go steady when we were in high school: wrong place, wrong time. As Erykah Badu puts it, "I guess I'll see you next lifetime". Unfortunately, he works as much as I do (he is a musician), so we play the text messages game.

My buddy Mr. Chivalry, has been working like a Beirut hostage on all of his projects that he has, that I believe it is starting to affect his health. He has had a few rounds with his bed and his doctor, and he is getting much better. I may have to steal the battery out his car and his cell phone to get him to take a break and smell the roses. It is for his health, and partly for my sanity.

Most of you know that I have started up my photography company and have set up shop in Washington, DC. Be looking out in your email for a special invitation to take a sneak peek of the studio. The official opening will not be until October, so be watching out for the official date on several different channels.


Now, the Ugly:
As the majority of you know, I am the president of Karmul Online Industries, an adult entertainment company based out of Charlotte. Some of you may have noticed that the main site of the company is no longer working, along with a few others that were affiliated with us. I have one word for you: MUTINY! The CEO of Karmul decided that excuses and baby momma issues will prevent him from pursuing his dream of being a business owner and blaze a trail for the BBW women to rule the world. Well I will be taking over things from this point forward. Kiarisly Thick Divas is the new company name, and it is helmed by me and Marlon P, the A&R lobbyist. You will be able to meet him at upcoming events being held in the NYC area this and next weekend. Get a business card from him and tell him that you are interested in being a Diva with us. The websites are www.kiarislythickdivas.com and www.kiarislythick.com. The tentative date of the site launch is August 30, 2008. Make sure you get a subscription and get in on the action.


My WTF moments and my shyt list for the last couple of months will be coming up in the next blog. Peace, love, and hair grease!

Hello Quizzy Test Results

Hello,
OK so I was kinda bored so I started taking some 'personality' tests to make my day go a lil' faster. These are the results.

Your result for The Personality Disorder Test...

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

0 Histronia, -3 Paranoia, -2 Antisocialness, 5 Narcissism, -4 Schizoidism and -1 Dependence!

You're highest trait was Narcissism...and since you scored 5 on a scale from -10 to 15. You would likely be diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder...The closer to 15, the more likely this would be.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder defined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM IV-R), the diagnostic classification system used in the United States, as "a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy."

Take The Personality Disorder Test at HelloQuizzy

Your result for Communication Ethics Test...

Integrity!

-10: very good!

You value clear and honest communication and use it with integrity. You put the techniques and technology of communication to good and respectful use.

If you have any ideas as to how this test could be improved, please send me a message.

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Your result for The Marvel or DC Test...

Marvel Universe

You live in a world of angst, interpersonal conflict, and are distrusted and possibly hated by those you have sworn to protect. On the plus side, your world tends to be faster paced and more ethnically diverse. You would most likely fight alongside Spider-Man, The X-Men, or Daredevil. In crossovers, you would probably be paired up with Batman or the Teen Titans.

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Your result for The Ideal Hobby Test...

Sex

69% Extraverted, 29% Contemplative, 66% Spontaneous, 51% Organismic, 46% Risible and 100% Horny!

Your ideal hobby is Sex.

You have a one-track mind. You find sexual innuendos in the most innocent of questions. It didn't matter what we asked you, you always found a way to bring sex into the picture.

While this could mean that sex is your ideal hobby, it could also mean that you're not having enough sex. In your case, it's too close to call. Either way, though, we recommend you stop hanging out on the internet taking tests!

Take The Ideal Hobby Test at HelloQuizzy

Your result for Four traits in Bed, "wanna know yours test"?...

The Untouchable!

84% Loving!

I would have to say, you are the bomb! You are all about love, and if ya don't have that in your life, then what is the reason for living? Besides being kinky right? Check out the rest of your stats down below!

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Your result for The Sexual HELL Test...

HELL LEVEL 2

Raw score: 62%

You're just about as deep in sexual hellfire as a person can get. Virtually no urge, however demented, will go ungratified; practically no boundary will go uncrossed. You're probably proud of your adventurousness, and, honestly, you should be. Few people are confident enough to pursue pleasure on their own terms.



Your morals could sink a bit further, sure, but it's likely that you've got a pretty good idea of what you're into and what you would do...above all you're honest with yourself with what you want. If more people were honest with themselves, you'd have a lot more company down in the flames.



AVOID: the lost souls in sexual heaven and (above all) the denizens of sexual purgatory. You don't need any prudes or wishy-washers in your life.

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Your result for The Bem Sex Role Inventory Test...

Androgynous

You scored high on both masculinity and femininity. You have a strong personality exhibiting characteristics of both traditional sex roles.

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People crack me up about HomeWrecker

People crack me up about a name that a former coworker gave me years ago when I lived in North Carolina. Unfortunately the nickname is Homewrecker. I am going to list the 'comment' that this person made along with my 'response'. You can check out the entire blog at http://ahomewreckerslife.blogspot.com/2007/10/homewrecker-still-causin-chaos.html?showComment=1215042480000#c6411760679084955287


Anonymous said...

Why would you be proud to call yourself a homewrecker retired or not? Furthermore, if you haven't done so already why don't you have a man or woman of your own so you don't have to chase after someone else's mate.


Adrian said...

I think the moniker HomeWrecker was absolutely funny when I was given the name back in 2004 by a former coworker over a joke. (Fortunately for people like you, it stays with me!)

To clarify to this unfortunate soul that didn't have the balls to even leave a name, I have never chased after a man in all my years of dating. (Chasing after people is for grade school girls, ha!) I cannot help the fact that I am the way that I am - an easygoing person that people can talk to and converse with, both male and female. I am like a Catholic priest with a Jigsaw (from the "Saw" movies) mentality. I will never physically harm you, but I want to know what makes you happy, sad, angry, etc. or get the information that I want from you to 'mess you up mentally' (rolling on the floor laughing).

her response???

hello,first all i am not hating on you and if you are my elder then i am very surprised at you,you are very bitter but i put you in the blood of jesus,i will not fuss with you anymore cause you are very disrespectful and if if i had to follow in the way you are i would not cause i have been through enough with my own color and i always wonder why can't we come together,all the other races stick together except us black folks and that is ashamed. i pray that you be blessed you and your family and if you like looking like that have fun but for me i have alot of pride and everybody just don't see my body okay.bye.ROSEMERRY


HAAA HAA HAAAAAA HAAAAA HAAA HAAA (LAUGHING HYSTERICALLY)HAAA HAA HAAAAAA HAAAAA HAAA HAAA (ROLLING ON THE FLOOR LAUGHING)HAAA HAA HAAAAAA HAAAAA HAAA HAAA (WIPE TEARS FROM EYES)HAAA HAA HAAAAAA HAAAAA HAAA HAAA

Some people have to find ways to hate

Well I am on a networking site called Ning. This is a site where you can create different rooms and interact with people from across the country and the world. Well i am part of a division called "Black men and the Ladies who adore them". I have met some colorful characters on the site and have interacted with some of them. A couple of days ago, an older lady by the name of RoseMerry from Orlando, FL sent me a message 'asking' me to change my picture. I asked her politely why. She claims that "we have another site for that when you like to show your body okay or please cover it up or get another pic okay .thank you.we as women suppose to be roll models to younger womens coming up .this is what i am saying okay.be blessed."

Yeap, stupid explanation.
So I, in my nice little way, I let grandma know where I was coming from.

Well I will apologize to you for being an older woman because I was taught to respect my elders. First and foremost my picture is an expression of loving ones self and the body that God blessed me with. Young people these days see more skin on regular TV than I am showing in my picture. As a freelance photographer, former model, and a single mother rearing a 14 year old son in the DC area, I am always talking to the younger men and women about the perils of life and the importance of getting a good education. As I tell them, do not judge a person for what they look like, judge them for what their mind holds.

Condemn me, boot me from the group if you like, but I am who I am and if you don't like it, that's tough. Peace and be blessed.

P.S. This is a site dedicated to black men, so why are you hating on me?

Now I don't know this woman from a can of paint (and probably never will), but I can assume that her religious belief and the lack of some good nookie is affecting her judgment. She was born in 1957, which would make her around 51 years OLD. So when I look at this woman's picture, she looks like someone's grandma propped up on a couch that has that vinyl covering on it. She is a slender woman, not a thick girl like myself. All I can sum it up to is being a hater, and you know I love all my haters!

EWW Sooooo Gross!

I was getting off the train at Gallery Place Metro to transfer trains (and to get some McD's as well). As I was walking, a guy got off another car and was walking in front of me. This guy started digging in his crack of his ass! OMG!!!! It wasn't a typical 'need to get my briefs/boxers out my ass' digging.... This guy was doing the 'damn my asshole is itching' butt scratching. Before I realized it, I was saying out loud Ewww you nasty bastard! And to top it all off, I lost my appetite.

If you are going to dig in your ass, do it on the fly, not in the middle of a moving crowd!

They had sex WHERE?

ROME (Reuters) - An Italian couple who were caught having sex in a church confessional box while morning Mass was being said have repented and made peace with the local bishop.
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The couple, in their early 30s, were detained by police earlier this month after they had made love in the confessional box in the cathedral in northern Cesena. They were cautioned for obscene acts in public and disturbing a religious function.

Their lawyer said they had been drinking all night and realized they had gone too far.

The lawyer told the area's local newspaper on Wednesday the couple met with the local bishop on Tuesday night, asked for his forgiveness and that he had given it.

Last week the bishop celebrated a "Mass of reparation" in the cathedral where the confessional box incident took place to make up for the sacrilege.

McCain Googling for VP?

RICHMOND, Virginia (Reuters) - It turns out choosing a vice president isn't that complicated after all.

Republican presidential candidate John McCain joked on Monday that Google, the popular Internet search engine, had made investigating his list of potential candidates a little bit easier.

"You know, basically it's a Google," he said to laughter at a fund-raising luncheon when asked how the selection process was going. "What you can find out now on the Internet -- it's remarkable."

Vice presidential candidates go through rigorous screening to determine whether they would help a White House aspirant in a general election -- and to make sure there is nothing in their background that could be damaging down the road.

McCain, 71, has faced high scrutiny in his search because of his age.

The Arizona senator, who wrapped up his place on the top of the Republican ticket earlier this year, said he still had some time to complete the search for a number two.

(Reporting by Jeff Mason, editing by Alan Elsner)

thank you for chilvary

thank you Kevin for showing me a good time Saturday afternoon, and yes, chilvary isn't dead.

Mint Condition E-Life... GET IT NOW!!!

I have been rocking Mint Condition's E-Life CD since it dropped Tuesday. This is a really good collection from them in a few years. One song in particular struck a chord with me deeply. The song is called "Why Do We Try", and the lyrics are listed below.


Why Do We Try

Do I continue living by myself..
Milking the single life till my last breath?
I know I found someone to fulfill my needs..
Why do I need to question how it should be?
So why do we try, to let love pass us by…
Question how we feel, that love is not for real.
Can I not be afraid to leave my cell at home?
When I get a ring can I keep it on?
It can be hard to break that family curse…
Cause brother and daddy’s relationships did not work.
Seems they were getting married every week…
Why the trouble if you know you’re gonna cheat?
How do you say bye to the lovers of yesterday?
Cause nobody told you there’s no easy way…
So why do we try, to let love pass us by…
Question how we feel, that love is not for real.

Reminder of our self Worth!

Reminder of our self Worth!


In a brief conversation, a man asked a
woman he was pursuing the question
'What kind of man are you looking
for?'

She sat quietly for a moment before
looking him in the eye & asking,
'Do you really want to know?'

Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes.


She began to expound, 'As a woman
in this day & age, I am in a position to
ask a man what can he do for me,
that I can't do for myself.


I pay my own bills.

I take care of my household without the
help of any man... or woman for that
matter.


I am in the position to ask,
'What can you bring to
the table?'

The man looked at her.

Clearly he thought that she was
referring to money.


She quickly corrected his thought
& stated, 'I am not referring to
money.


'I need something
more.


I need a man who
is striving for perfection
in every aspect of life.


'He sat back in his chair,
folded his arms, & asked her to
explain.


She said, 'I am looking for someone who
is striving for perfection mentally because
I need conversation & mental stimulation.


I don't need a simple-minded man.


I am looking for someone who is striving
for perfection spiritually because I don't
need to be unequally yoked...believers
mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for
disaster.


I need a man who is striving for
perfection financially because
I don't need a financial
burden.


I am looking for someone who is
sensitive enough to understand
what I go through as a woman,
but strong enough to keep
me grounded.


I am looking for someone who has
integrity in dealing with relationships -
lies and game playing are not my
idea of a strong man.


I am looking for someone who I can respect.

In order to be submissive, I must respect him.


I cannot be submissive to a man
who isn't taking care of his business.


I have no problem being submissive....
he just has to be worthy.


God made woman to be a helpmate
for man.


I can't help a man if he
can't help himself.


When she finished her spill,
she looked at him.


He sat there with a puzzled look on his
face. He said, 'You are asking a lot.


She replied, 'I'm worth a lot.


Send this to every woman who's
worth a lot.... and every man
who has the brains to
understand

4 Instant Intimacy Boosters

4 Instant Intimacy Boosters

Even if you don't follow sports news, you know that today's headlines are less about wins and losses than they are about steroid suspicions, doping scandals, and finger-pointing among former teammates and coaching partners.
It's playground stuff on the highest levels of sport - guys (and yes, Marion Jones, too) seizing on every opportunity to enhance their performance with supplements and drugs. Makes me wonder: Why do we seek all these advantages in hitting a ball or running a race, and ignore the sneaky (but legal!) advantages that we could gain in the most important game most of us play - the game of love and romance?
So to change the subject from those sports cheaters a bit, I'm proposing healthy ways you can jump-start your hormones, boost your own libido-arousing brain chemicals, and give your whole relationship an extra boost of all-natural adrenaline. Here are four ways to set your own love and lust records (Congressional inquiry not included):


Shot 1: They Add Adventure to their Romance
Research shows that adventurous men and women have more testosterone (good for libido). You can amp up the intensity of your relationship by amping up the intensity of your activities.
That doesn't mean that you necessarily need to do something really risky, like skydive or punch out a paparazzi. But it does mean that adding a little element of risk to your typical Saturday to-do list will make you - and your relationship - feel a little more alive than usual.
Take a rock-climbing class, or book a white-water rafting trip. Not up for that? Riding a roller coaster will give you a quick shot, as will seeing a scary movie.


Shot 2: They Cyber Flirt when They're Apart
One of the big complaints I hear from men and women about what goes wrong in a relationship is that it can feel staler than yesterday's bagel. After the novelty has worn off and the commitment has solidified, the closest thing anyone will hear to flirting is "can you please grab me a diet soda from the fridge?"
Try this: If you haven't already, set up instant-messaging accounts. Then, if you have a laptop and a desktop, initiate a convo while your partner's in one room and you're in another. Let sexual tension mount and innuendos fly, and you're off and running.
Bonus: In this scenario, you're only a room away. Or better still: You can conduct this dirty dialogue when he's in his workplace, and she's in hers, which means tonight's reunion will be good for more than just a distracted peck on the cheek.


Shot 3: They Show up on Each Others' Turf
It's good for relationships when each party has his or her own interests. She goes to yoga three days a week; he plays Ultimate Frisbee on Sunday afternoons. Space is good.
But more than you do now, make a point to watch, participate in, or ask about each other's outside activities. She'll be thrilled that he's risking his hamstrings (and dignity) to experience what downward dog is all about; he'll be ego-stroked when she's sitting on the sidelines as he hits disc paydirt. Independence is good, interdependence is better.


Shot 4: They Take a Walk on the Wild Side
Routine is great when it comes to some things (like car maintenance), but routine can also be the drizzle on the tinder of a hot relationship. So, here's what you do: Identify one part of your relationship where you feel like you're in a rut, and find a way to break that routine. This will help you overcome the obstacles to sex that everyone faces.
It doesn't have to be a major overhaul, just subtle changes that send the message to your partner that you're going to keep the surprises coming. If Sunday is chores day, plan brunch out with a group of friends, instead-but make sure you order wisely each and every time (go ahead, have the Bloody Mary).
If you haven't had sex on a Monday since the Bangles were popular, hit the sack instead of watching the State of the Union Address on January 28th. (Big sacrifice, I know; just do it for of the state of your union!) If you resolve to change things up in 2008, you'll fire things up as well.

All Men Are The Same

this is a reprint that I thought was interesting

All Men Are The Same
For 15 years, I believed that 'al men were jerks because despite how much I tried to change things, I kept going through the same problems with men. If you have ever watched the movie, Groundhog Day (A weatherman finding himself living the same day over and over again -Staring Bill Murray- 1993) then you will start to understand how I was living. Perhaps you have been there with me. You try to keep yourself from being hurt and build something positive but you keep going through the same hurtful experiences each time with a different man.

I dated men that were not right for me and blamed them for all our problems. If he would just change into the man I first met or became the man I always wanted him to be then everything would be OK. I lived my life playing the waiting and blaming game -blaming him and then waiting for him to change so that I could be happy.Blame isn't all bad. It helps us decide who is responsible for what and what we need to be accountable for. However, the balance tips to unhealthy when we blame the other person for everything that is wrong. This type of blame takes away the opportunity of growth and personal responsibility and makes us victims. We are left with no choices and no power to act. Everything we want and hope to happen is given into the hands of the person that we feel is making our life intolerable.
The power to act and make changes requires personal responsibility. Rather than focusing on what needs to change in him we start focusing on our own growth. That means looking at how we are keeping the cycle repeating. It could be things like living with false hope about his feelings for us or denying his hurtful behavior. It could be our ideas about love and loyalty- perhaps they are built on infatuation and not reality. Or it could be a fear of speaking up or saying no and as a result we are put up with things we know are wrong.
It is not about men being all the same it's about realizing that we like and attract a certain type. Not all men are the same and by discovering why we attract who we do and then changing the pattern, we give ourselves freedom to discover other types of people.
Are All Men The Same - Written By Joanne Robinson Copyright 2008 Donna Intera

A baller???

I know I haven't blogged in a while, but here it goes....

I have had my ups and downs, my ins and outs with the game of life. To this date, I can say that I haven't had an official date in over a year. Don't get me wrong, I have had offers, but things didnt pan out too well. One guy thought I needed "a baller" because my typical date is a dinner and movie, and he wanted me to go with him to a sports bar, get a brew and some wings, and play a round or two of pool. I had to laugh at this notion because he asked me where I wanted to go. when I told him, he couldn't handle it. Why ask a girl on a date if you don't have the funds to take her out to somewhere nice. Maybe I am too critical.

Proving Me Right

I would like to thank everyone that has sent me emails or notes responding to my open letter. As I have had many positive responses, at the same time, a weasel gets in and proves me right.

Case in point, a guy using the Yahoo ID jessejamescollado. I talked to him 3 times on Yahoo IM in the span of 3 months. Twice this guy asks me if I have a cam. From past experience, anytime a guy asks a girl for her cam, he wants a free peep show. Yes, I shut him down twice. The third time he asked me for pics. I am sitting here like WTF? When I point it out to him that he is a pervert asking me for my cam twice, he tried to deny that he has ever talked to me. (ok, do I have stupid written across my forehead?) When I pointed it out to him that I had chatted with him 3 times, he acted like he had NO CLUE! C'mon really? Hell, i even gave him an alibi by saying that someone may have been playing on your Yahoo. He actually answered yes! I promptly told him that he needs to stop playing games, called him a pervert for the 3rd time and put him in the Super Iggy Bin.

My IM messages breakdown

I know a lot of people have asked about my Yahoo IM messages that are displayed beside my name. Well here is a small breakdown of the common messages so people wont be sending that famous acronym WTF??

Calling Ghetto Dr. Phil - I am chatting with someone that has a lot of issues and need someone that will give them objective advice. Sometimes they listen, most times they don't, and what I tell them comes full circle.

Having a Pinky and Brain moment - (If you ever watched cartoons, think of the Animaniacs' Pinky and the Brain.) This is twofold; If I am having a bad day at the office, the sign will go up. 95% of the time, it is my crazy-ass 'boss' in NC that has hatched another hair-brained scheme to take over the world, and I as his president tries not to attempt to catch a case (or commit myself under a 51-50) trying to stop him.

VoluptuousDCDiva - I'm in a basic Diva mood. Most of the time I am ranting about something in my personal life.

KARMUL - I am working on something related to Karmul. Simply hit me up and I'll tell you what's new on the Karmul horizon.

I'm (not) in love with a stripper - Catherine Price

I'm (not) in love with a stripper

I was tempted to kick off the morning with a piece about gubernatorial sex scandal. (I'm not even talking about Eliot Spitzer -- check out this article on David and Michelle Paterson's admitted infidelities.) But then I thought, screw that. I'd rather write about strip clubs.

Did anyone else catch this little nugget Monday from the Associated Press? Titled "Man Files Suit, Claims Lap Dance Injury," it briefly recounts the travails of a man named Stephen Chang, a securities trader who has filed a lawsuit against the Hot Lap Dance Club in Manhattan for injuries he sustained when "a stripper giving a lap dance swiveled and smacked him in the face with the heel of her shoe."

First, a note to Mr. Chang: Please accept my condolences for what could very well be a serious injury. If this was a stripper of the sort one frequently sees in the background of music videos, those heels were likely to have been quite high -- not to mention pointy. If this is anything involving your eye, then disregard the rest of this post and write me off as an asshole. (Update: According to the lawsuit, Mr. Chang did suffer an eye injury. I apologize. But as a general point, I still stand by what follows.)

Provided that's not the case, though, I have a question: Are you stupid? There are certain activities that come with risks. Try kiteboarding, for example, and a sudden gust of wind could smack you down on the water and break your back. Go base-jumping and there's a chance you might splatter. Surround yourself with scantily clad women whose entire job is to gyrate around your body in stilettos, and one in several million times, a heel is going to land in your face. Under normal circumstances, she would have gotten an extra tip for being so flexible.

So what are the possible long-term implications of this lawsuit? I imagine a world in which strip clubs start to resemble ski rental shops, requiring clients to sign lengthy liability waivers before they're allowed to try out the equipment. It reminds me of a release form I once saw at a bar that had a mechanical bull (proudly labeled as "The Best Buckin' Ride Ever"). The form -- which was several pages long -- could be summarized by one simple statement (which for some reason I have saved on my computer): "Mechanical bull riding has inherent dangers." So does hiring a woman to throw her leg over your shoulder and hump your lap. Consider yourself warned.

-- Catherine Price

How Far will You go?

Will you go as far as this man went to get rid of the life that he once had?

Man's Life in Australia For Sale online

SYDNEY, Australia - A painful breakup with his wife has prompted a man to put his entire life — his house, his car, his job, even his friends — up for sale online in an effort to start over.

Ian Usher, a British immigrant to Australia, said Tuesday he would auction everything he owns and more on e-Bay starting June 22.

"On the day it's all sold and settled, I intend to walk out of my front door with my wallet in one pocket and my passport in the other, nothing else at all," Usher says on his Web site.

Up for bid is Usher's three bedroom house in the western city of Perth and everything inside it, his car, motorcycle, jet ski and parachuting gear.

Usher says he is also selling a one-time introduction to his friends and a trial run at his job — a plan endorsed by his friends and his employer.

In media interviews on Tuesday, Usher said he wants a fresh start after realizing that most things in his current life remind him of the relationship he had with the wife of five years whom he broke up with more than a year ago.

"Everything that I have — the furniture in the house — all has memories attached to it," Usher, 44, told Seven Network television. "It's time to shed the old, and in with the new."

Usher said his life will be sold in one lot, and that bidders should expect to pay more than $390,000, which is the upper end of a realtor's valuation of his house that he has posted online.

Joy Jones, who co-owns the rug store in Perth where Usher worked as a shop assistant, said she liked the auction idea and wanted to help out. Joy Jones Rugs is offering the successful bidder a two-week trial, which could be extended for three months and then become permanent if it works out.

"When Ian came with this idea — because we had seen him go through a breakup of marriage and pain and bits and pieces — I thought it was really exciting," Jones told the Australian Broadcasting Corp. "We thought, why not give it a go?"

Usher said his friends in Perth had also proved willing to be introduced to the highest bidder — allowing him to advertise his auction as offering a complete lifestyle.

Usher, who was born in Darlington, England, planned to open the auction at noon Perth time on June 22 and accept the last bid exactly one week later.

He said he hopes to set off traveling, including a visit to his mother in England, as soon as the auction is over.

"My current thoughts are to then head to the airport, and ask at the flight desk where the next flight with an available seat goes to, and to get on that and see where life takes me from there," he wrote online.

Politics

A little boy goes to his dad and asks, 'What is Politics?' Dad says, 'Well son, let me try to explain it this way:

I am the head of the family, so call me The President.
Your mother is the administrator of the money, so we call her the Government.
We are here to take care of your needs, so we will call you the People.
The nanny, we will consider her the Working Class.
And your baby brother, we will call him the Future.

Now think about that and see if it makes sense.'

So the little boy goes off to bed thinking about what Dad has said. Later that night, he hears his baby brother crying, so he gets up to check on him. He finds that the baby has severely soiled his diaper. So the little boy goes to his parent's room and finds his mother asleep. Not wanting to wake her, he goes to the nanny's room.

Finding the door locked, he peeks in the keyhole and sees his father in bed with the nanny. He gives up and goes back to bed.

The next morning, the little boy say's to his father, 'Dad, I think I understand the concept of politics now.'


The father says, 'Good, son, tell me in your own words what you think politics is all about.'

The little boy replies, 'The President is screwing the Working Class while the Government is sound asleep. The People are being ignored and the Future is in deep shit. '

That just about sums it up, don't you think ?????

Cows, The Constitution, and the 10 Commandments

1. Cows
2. The Constitution
3. The Ten Commandments

C O W S
Is it just me, or does anyone else find it amazing that during the mad
cow epidemic our government could track a single cow, born in Canada
almost three years before, right to the stall where she slept in the
state of Washington ? And, they tracked her calves to their stalls. But
they are unable to locate 11 million illegal aliens wandering around
our country. Maybe we should give each of them a cow.


T H E C O N S T I T U T I O N
They keep talking about drafting a Constitution for Iraq . Why don't we
just give them ours? It was written by a lot of really smart guys, it
had worked for over 200 years, and we're not using it anymore.


T H E 1 0 C O M M A N D M E N T S
The real reason that we can't have the Ten Commandments posted in a
courthouse is this:
You cannot post 'Thou Shalt Not Steal,' 'Thou Shalt Not Commit
Adultery,' and 'Thou Shall Not Lie' in a building full of lawyers,
judges and politicians...It creates a hostile work environment.

IF A MAN WANTS YOU.............

IF A MAN WANTS YOU.............

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to
be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT....

I'm Looking for....

I want to thank you for all of the feedback coming from my letter. Well this is in response to everyone asking 'what are you looking for in a man'? This is what I am looking for in a mate. This list can change at anytime, but this is the basics.

I want a BMW - Black Man Working. For all of the other nationalities, this means that you need to be independent with a job.

I am looking for a mate that is kind, witty, and have a good sense of humor. He needs to know how to respect, treat and spoil his queen. He must know that I will treat him like a king and my equal. He must be affectionate and romantic, and knows how to appreciate the finer things in life. Communication, honesty and compromise are key ingredients in a relationship foundation, so know all three. I am drug,disease, and drama free, so I don't expect nothing less. If you have kids, please don't bring that baby mamma drama to my doorstep either.

Above all else, he needs to have the fear of God in him.. that way I don't have to do it for you :-)

Feedback is good

Thank you for all the feedback from my last posting. Keep it coming!

Single Forever! An Open Letter

Well world, I think I am going to admit to myself and to you that I will stay single and be single for a loooong time to come. I am sick and tired of the games that men play around these parts, and it is really getting on my nerves.

For the longest time I thought it was all me. Maybe it is because of my honesty. Maybe it is because I am showing you the real me (Adrian) instead of a character (StormAndThunda) that you think I am. Then I thought, well, maybe it is my work schedule. Yeah, that's it - my schedule. So I began scaling some things back to give myself some more free time. Well I can't help when duty calls, so I tell you to be patient with me while I finish this or that. No satisfaction on that front. So I thought 'let me look into myself for a second or two'. They see a attractive, independent woman that is doing her own thing, but don't want to take the time out to see what makes her tick. These guys wants all of the benefits of having a girlfriend but don't want to put in the work for it. Even if they say that they want to take it slow, they are still trying to bed you all the same. What ever happened to getting to know a person? What happened to building something positive and meaningful? That is when I realized that it wasn't me, but the combination of my personality going against the society at large.

For all of my ruff ridin', weed smokin', non-working ebonic using bastards, please do not reply to this 'open letter'. If you are a real man, that works everyday and want a good woman in your life, then step up to the plate and be heard.

I'm Married now! (no, not me idiots)

Well it damn sure isn't me, but the man that practically taught me everything I know about the male species has turned in his player cards (all 30 of them). My cousin Antonio, aka Tony, the closest thing to a brother I have, tied the knot with his longtime girlfriend last Saturday.

The ceremony was held at the Newton White Mansion and it was beautiful. Here is a picture of the couple after they tied the knot. I will post more pics on my photography website ThundaGraphics (www.thundagraphics.com) for a short time.

Why Are Black Women Scaring Off Their Men?

Why Are Black Women Scaring Off Their Men

The Washington Post By: Joy Jones

Have you met this woman? She has a good job, works hard, and earns a good
salary. She went to college, she got her master's degree; she is
intelligent. She is personable, articulate, well read, interested in
everybody and everything Yet, she's single.

Or maybe you know this one. Active in the church. Faithful, committed,
sings in the choir, serves on the usher board, and attends every committee
meeting. Loves the Lord and knows the Word. You'd think that with her
command of the Scriptures and the respect of her church members, she'd have
a marriage as solid as a rock. But again, no husband.

Or perhaps you recognize the community activist. She's a black lady, or, as
she prefers, an African American woman, on the move. She sports A short
natural; sometimes cornrow braids, or even dreadlocks.She's an organizer, a
motivator, a dynamo. Her work for her people speaks for itself--organizing
women for a self-help, raising funds for A community cause, educating
others around a new issue in South Africa. Black folks look up to her, and
white folks know she's a force to be reckoned with. Yet once again, the men
leave her alone.

What do these women have in common? They have so much; what is it they
lack? Why is it they may be able to hook a man but can't hold him? The
women puzzle over this quandary themselves. They gather at professional
clubs, at sorority meetings or over coffee at the office and wonder what's
wrong with black men? They hold special prayer vigils and fast and pray and
beg Jesus to send the men back to church. They find the brothers attending
political strategizing sessions or participating in protests but when it
comes time to go home, the brothers go home to someone else.

I know these women because I am all of these women. And after asking over
and over again "What's wrong with these men?", it finally dawned on me to
ask the question, "What's wrong with us women?" What I have found, and what
many of these women have yet to discover, is that the skills that make one
successful in the church, community or workplace are not the skills that
make one successful in a relationship.

Linear thinking, self-reliance, structured goals and direct action assist
one in getting assignments done, in organizing church or club activities or
in positioning oneself for a raise, but relationship- building requires
different skills. It requires making decisions that not only gratify you,
but satisfy others. It means doing things that will keep the peace rather
than achieve the goal, and sometimes it means creating the peace in the
first place Maintaining a harmonious relationship will not always allow you
to take the straight line between two points. You may have to stoop to
conquer or yield to win.

In too many cases, when dealing with men, you will have to sacrifice being
right in order to enjoy being loved. Being acknowledged as the head of the
household is an especially important thing for many black men, since their
manhood is so often actively challenged everywhere else. Many modern women
are so independent, so self-sufficient, so committed to the cause, to the
church, to career or their narrow concepts that their entire personalities
project an "I don't need a man" message. So they end up without one. An
interested man may be attracted but he soon discovers that this sister
makes very little space for him in her life. Going to graduate school is a
good goal and an option that previous generations of blacks have not had.
But sometimes the achieving woman will place her boyfriend so low on her
list of priorities that his interest wanes. Between work, school and
homework, she's seldom "there" for him, for the preliminaries that might
develop a commitment to a woman. !
She's too
busy to prepare him a home-cooked meal or to be a listening ear for his
concerns because she is so occupied with her own.

Soon he uses her only for uncommitted sex since to him she appears
unavailable for anything else. Blind to the part she's playing in the
problem, she ends up thinking, "Men only want one thing." And she decides
she's better off with the degree than the friendship. When she's 45, she
may wish she'd set different priorities while she was younger. It's not
just the busy career girl who can't see the forest for the trees.

A couple I know were having marital troubles. During one argument, the
husband confronted the wife and asked what she thought they should do about
the marriage, what direction they should take. She reached for her Bible
and turned to Ephesians. "I know what Paul says and I know what Jesus says
about marriage," he told her, "What do you say about our marriage?"
Dumbfounded, she could not say anything. Like so many of us, she could
recite the Scriptures but could not apply them to everyday living. Before
the year was out, the husband had filed for divorce. Women who focus on
civil rights or community activism have vigorous, fighting spirits and are
prepared to do whatever, whenever, to benefit black people. That's good.
That's necessary. But it needs to be kept in perspective. It's too easy to
save the world and lose your man.

A fighting spirit is important on the battlefield, but a gentler spirit is
wanted on the home front. Too many women are winning the battle and losing
the home. Sometimes in our determined efforts to be strong believers and
hard workers, we contemporary women downplay, denigrate or simply forget
our more traditional feminine attributes. Men value women best for the ways
we are different from them, not the ways we are the same. Men appreciate us
for our grace and beauty. Men enjoy our softness and see it as a way to be
in touch with their tender side, a side they dare not show to other men. A
hard-working woman is good to have on your committee. But when a man goes
home, he'd prefer a loving partner to a hard worker.

It's not an easy transition for the modern black woman to make. It sounds
submissive, reactionary, outmoded, and oppressive. We have fought so hard
for so many things, and rightfully so. We have known so many men who were
shaky, jive and untrustworthy. Yet we must admit that we are shaky, jive
and willful in our own ways. Not having a husband allows us to do whatever
we want, when and how we want to do it. Having one means we have to share
the power and certain points will have to be surrendered. We are terrified
of marriage and commitment, yet dread the prospect of being single and
alone.

Throwing ourselves into work seems to fill the void without posing a
threat. But like any other drug, the escape eventually becomes the cage. To
make the break, we need to do less and "be" more. I am learning to "be
still and know," to be trusting. I am learning to stop competing with black
men and to collaborate with them, to temper my assertive and aggressive
energy with softness and serenity. I'm not preaching a philosophy of "women
be seen and not heard." But I have come to realize that I, and many of my
smart and independent sisters are out of touch with our feminine center and
Therefore out of touch with our men. About a year ago, I was at an
oldies-but-goodies club. As a Washingtonian, love to do the bop and to hand
dance styles that were popular when I was a teen. In those dances, the man
has his set of steps and the woman has hers, but the couple is still two
partners and must move together. On this evening, I was sitting out a
record when a thought came to me.

If a man were to say, "I'm going to be in charge and you're going to
follow. I want you to adjust your ways to fit in with mine" I'd dismiss him
as a Neanderthal. With my hand on my hip, I'd tell him that I have just as
much sense as he does and that he can't tell me what to do. Yet, on the
dance floor, I love following a man's lead. I don't feel inferior because
my part is different from his, and I don't feel I have to prove that I'm
just as able to lead as he is. I simply allow him to take my hand, and I go
with the flow.

I am still single. I am over 30 and scared. I am still a member of my
church, have no plans to quit my good government job and will continue to
do what I can for my people. I think that I have a healthy relationship
with a good man. But today, I know that I have to bring some of that spirit
of the dance into my relationship. Dancing solo, I've mastered that. Now
I'm learning how to accept his lead, and to go with the flow.

Look! It's snowing!

I hope that everyone is enjoying the snowfall that is happening in the DC area. For my peeps to the south and west, pull out your snowboard and boogie your way down the slopes. Since I can't ski worth a damn, fall one time for me LOL.

Have fun and be safe on the roads

Savage Love

I love Dan Savage, the sex advice colunminst. below is a letter sent to him that I found hilarious. You can read other items from his site http://thestranger.com/savage



I realize Savage Love is a sex-advice column (as evidenced by much vulgar language), but I'm going to ask anyway.

(1) What is your definition of love?

(2) How do you know if you're in "love"?

(3) How do you know if they're the "one"?

Anonymous


(1) Love is making out with someone after you've blown a load on his/her face.

(2) You know you're in love when you're eating breakfast in a restaurant together the morning after he/she blew a load on your face and you suddenly realize that you didn't wash your face when you got out of bed that morning and you don't care.

(3) You know he/she is the one when he/she realizes that you've just realized that you're eating breakfast in a restaurant the morning after he/she blew a load on your face and you didn't wash your face when you got out of bed that morning and he/she smiles, leans over the table, and gives you a kiss.

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Happy New Year!

Well Happy New Year to one and all!


Well I spent a quiet New Years at home. I didn't go out anywhere and party like a rockstar.. actually I didn't want to this year. I thought about everything that occurred for me in 2007 - President of Karmul Online, an adult entertainment company, retarting my photography company under a new name (Thunda Graphics), sending my son off to high school and becoming a year older and wiser.


Now I am looking forward to a busy 2008 year. I am already hitting the ground running with 3 photo shoots geared toward KarmulOnline, and 2 more for Thunda Graphics. While I am husting everyday, I still have my friends that are giving me gray hairs and slowly pushing me into one of St. Elizabeth's finest Romper Room. From my personal 'fourth kitty issues' to the ever so popular 'I hate my hubby\wife for.....'. Oh well, I guess it will either get better or worse in 2008.