Here is a repost of my venting on DC men from Yahoo 360 and the comments that I received....
Hello to one and all! I gotta vent for a minute! Fellas, you can put your two cents spin on it. Maybe I am not seeing something.
I have had a BlackPlanet.com page for years and have came across some nice people and some fine yet stupid people. When I moved back into the DC area, my stupid people volume have tripled... YES PEOPLE, TRIPLED!
What I refer to stupid people, I refer to the men that leaves one-line notes such as "damn", "hi sexy", and my personal favorite, "when can I tap that ass?". Most of these notes gets ignored or deleted immediately after opening it, but there are times where I want to know why a person send these types of notes. The response that I got from these niglets can be placed under one word: SEX. Apparantly, these guys feel that the women on BP are an easy lay, and they dont have to use other websites like FuckMeAndLeave.com (fmandl.com) and Online Booty Call.com (OBC.com). Unfortunately for these niglets, this is grounds for a good cursing out by any sensible woman who don't want that in their lives.
The next step up is the men that want to see you 'not now, but right now'. Mind you, these guys dont know your name, never spoke to you over the phone, and may have chatted with you once or twice. They are ready to meet you (mainly at their place) without even knowing the basic information about the woman. C'mon now, think!
Now I know that there are gentlemen in this area that knows the basics and the foundation of having a fun, solid relationship or even friendship. Most of them are just trying to get another notch in their belt or sowing their royal oats. If you want respect from the queens, you have to respect yourself.
Now, the comments.....
"Some guys just never grow up. I'm sorry they can be that way, but many feel that if they keep trying they will luck up on that easy lay. That's my $.02 worth." - Sonny
"It is a main consensus among a large percentage of people on Blackplanet.com that it’s has in the latter years turned into serious “hook-up” site. There are many woman that boast how much they don’t want anything sexual and then you have those that put a lot of risqué and raunchy pictures on there page, yet they say don’t say anything sexual about these pictures and so on. Then you have those that are involved and they have breast and butt hanging out on there page, with all these vain attributes they are looking for in a guy who sends them a note. I feel a lot of guys are going to be a certain way regardless, but there are enough women that have been giving of themselves sexually that some guys are becoming more open and with the images that are displayed on there pages they feel that woman might be more open and willing to do sexual acts.
Women can’t have it both ways, you can’t have the most risqué pictures of yourself without expecting some type of sexual response. It’s sad and unfortunate, but it has to be expected. There are many guys who love sex, if they could get sex without doing anything, you could only imagine how many guys out here would stop doing a lot of the things they do for woman, just to have sex.
A lot of guys have had come across women that were open to meeting and doing various sexual things, all in the early off, with this being true, a lot of guys are going to take that and run with it, that’s why soo many guys continuously pursue woman in that fashion. Also note that many guys are trifling and are only out for themselves, that goes for guys on the street, that are very disrespectful and speak only out of the perverted little heads with feeding there sexual appetite, it’s just that simple. I don’t personally know any guys like that and I have never talked to any, so I can’t break down there exact outlook and so on.
The sad truth is there are very few true gentlemen in this area, many that claim the title, are nothing but posers that must think it starts and ends with merely opening the door for a woman, but that’s not the case. Then some only do it, to get in good with a woman, or they will only stand outside the door and hold it, if they are attracted to the woman. A lot of guys need mentors, they just have no clue of how to respect themselves and respect and treat a woman on all accounts. A true gentleman would never ask a woman to come to his place within the first 2 days of knowing her. Certain things should never be asked, then there are other things that should come later, but many guys ask all the wrong questions upfront, clearly disrespectful and showing that they care only about themselves and there wants.
There are many sites and many women that are openly about sex and hooking up, but there will always be guys that will just throw there demeaning comments and selfish wants at women, even when they don’t give off the clear vibe that she is all about sex." - Eric
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