Reminder of our self Worth!
In a brief conversation, a man asked a
woman he was pursuing the question
'What kind of man are you looking
for?'
She sat quietly for a moment before
looking him in the eye & asking,
'Do you really want to know?'
Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes.
She began to expound, 'As a woman
in this day & age, I am in a position to
ask a man what can he do for me,
that I can't do for myself.
I pay my own bills.
I take care of my household without the
help of any man... or woman for that
matter.
I am in the position to ask,
'What can you bring to
the table?'
The man looked at her.
Clearly he thought that she was
referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought
& stated, 'I am not referring to
money.
'I need something
more.
I need a man who
is striving for perfection
in every aspect of life.
'He sat back in his chair,
folded his arms, & asked her to
explain.
She said, 'I am looking for someone who
is striving for perfection mentally because
I need conversation & mental stimulation.
I don't need a simple-minded man.
I am looking for someone who is striving
for perfection spiritually because I don't
need to be unequally yoked...believers
mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for
disaster.
I need a man who is striving for
perfection financially because
I don't need a financial
burden.
I am looking for someone who is
sensitive enough to understand
what I go through as a woman,
but strong enough to keep
me grounded.
I am looking for someone who has
integrity in dealing with relationships -
lies and game playing are not my
idea of a strong man.
I am looking for someone who I can respect.
In order to be submissive, I must respect him.
I cannot be submissive to a man
who isn't taking care of his business.
I have no problem being submissive....
he just has to be worthy.
God made woman to be a helpmate
for man.
I can't help a man if he
can't help himself.
When she finished her spill,
she looked at him.
He sat there with a puzzled look on his
face. He said, 'You are asking a lot.
She replied, 'I'm worth a lot.
Send this to every woman who's
worth a lot.... and every man
who has the brains to
understand
Sunday, June 8, 2008
4 Instant Intimacy Boosters
4 Instant Intimacy Boosters
Even if you don't follow sports news, you know that today's headlines are less about wins and losses than they are about steroid suspicions, doping scandals, and finger-pointing among former teammates and coaching partners.
It's playground stuff on the highest levels of sport - guys (and yes, Marion Jones, too) seizing on every opportunity to enhance their performance with supplements and drugs. Makes me wonder: Why do we seek all these advantages in hitting a ball or running a race, and ignore the sneaky (but legal!) advantages that we could gain in the most important game most of us play - the game of love and romance?
So to change the subject from those sports cheaters a bit, I'm proposing healthy ways you can jump-start your hormones, boost your own libido-arousing brain chemicals, and give your whole relationship an extra boost of all-natural adrenaline. Here are four ways to set your own love and lust records (Congressional inquiry not included):
Shot 1: They Add Adventure to their Romance
Research shows that adventurous men and women have more testosterone (good for libido). You can amp up the intensity of your relationship by amping up the intensity of your activities.
That doesn't mean that you necessarily need to do something really risky, like skydive or punch out a paparazzi. But it does mean that adding a little element of risk to your typical Saturday to-do list will make you - and your relationship - feel a little more alive than usual.
Take a rock-climbing class, or book a white-water rafting trip. Not up for that? Riding a roller coaster will give you a quick shot, as will seeing a scary movie.
Shot 2: They Cyber Flirt when They're Apart
One of the big complaints I hear from men and women about what goes wrong in a relationship is that it can feel staler than yesterday's bagel. After the novelty has worn off and the commitment has solidified, the closest thing anyone will hear to flirting is "can you please grab me a diet soda from the fridge?"
Try this: If you haven't already, set up instant-messaging accounts. Then, if you have a laptop and a desktop, initiate a convo while your partner's in one room and you're in another. Let sexual tension mount and innuendos fly, and you're off and running.
Bonus: In this scenario, you're only a room away. Or better still: You can conduct this dirty dialogue when he's in his workplace, and she's in hers, which means tonight's reunion will be good for more than just a distracted peck on the cheek.
Shot 3: They Show up on Each Others' Turf
It's good for relationships when each party has his or her own interests. She goes to yoga three days a week; he plays Ultimate Frisbee on Sunday afternoons. Space is good.
But more than you do now, make a point to watch, participate in, or ask about each other's outside activities. She'll be thrilled that he's risking his hamstrings (and dignity) to experience what downward dog is all about; he'll be ego-stroked when she's sitting on the sidelines as he hits disc paydirt. Independence is good, interdependence is better.
Shot 4: They Take a Walk on the Wild Side
Routine is great when it comes to some things (like car maintenance), but routine can also be the drizzle on the tinder of a hot relationship. So, here's what you do: Identify one part of your relationship where you feel like you're in a rut, and find a way to break that routine. This will help you overcome the obstacles to sex that everyone faces.
It doesn't have to be a major overhaul, just subtle changes that send the message to your partner that you're going to keep the surprises coming. If Sunday is chores day, plan brunch out with a group of friends, instead-but make sure you order wisely each and every time (go ahead, have the Bloody Mary).
If you haven't had sex on a Monday since the Bangles were popular, hit the sack instead of watching the State of the Union Address on January 28th. (Big sacrifice, I know; just do it for of the state of your union!) If you resolve to change things up in 2008, you'll fire things up as well.
Even if you don't follow sports news, you know that today's headlines are less about wins and losses than they are about steroid suspicions, doping scandals, and finger-pointing among former teammates and coaching partners.
It's playground stuff on the highest levels of sport - guys (and yes, Marion Jones, too) seizing on every opportunity to enhance their performance with supplements and drugs. Makes me wonder: Why do we seek all these advantages in hitting a ball or running a race, and ignore the sneaky (but legal!) advantages that we could gain in the most important game most of us play - the game of love and romance?
So to change the subject from those sports cheaters a bit, I'm proposing healthy ways you can jump-start your hormones, boost your own libido-arousing brain chemicals, and give your whole relationship an extra boost of all-natural adrenaline. Here are four ways to set your own love and lust records (Congressional inquiry not included):
Shot 1: They Add Adventure to their Romance
Research shows that adventurous men and women have more testosterone (good for libido). You can amp up the intensity of your relationship by amping up the intensity of your activities.
That doesn't mean that you necessarily need to do something really risky, like skydive or punch out a paparazzi. But it does mean that adding a little element of risk to your typical Saturday to-do list will make you - and your relationship - feel a little more alive than usual.
Take a rock-climbing class, or book a white-water rafting trip. Not up for that? Riding a roller coaster will give you a quick shot, as will seeing a scary movie.
Shot 2: They Cyber Flirt when They're Apart
One of the big complaints I hear from men and women about what goes wrong in a relationship is that it can feel staler than yesterday's bagel. After the novelty has worn off and the commitment has solidified, the closest thing anyone will hear to flirting is "can you please grab me a diet soda from the fridge?"
Try this: If you haven't already, set up instant-messaging accounts. Then, if you have a laptop and a desktop, initiate a convo while your partner's in one room and you're in another. Let sexual tension mount and innuendos fly, and you're off and running.
Bonus: In this scenario, you're only a room away. Or better still: You can conduct this dirty dialogue when he's in his workplace, and she's in hers, which means tonight's reunion will be good for more than just a distracted peck on the cheek.
Shot 3: They Show up on Each Others' Turf
It's good for relationships when each party has his or her own interests. She goes to yoga three days a week; he plays Ultimate Frisbee on Sunday afternoons. Space is good.
But more than you do now, make a point to watch, participate in, or ask about each other's outside activities. She'll be thrilled that he's risking his hamstrings (and dignity) to experience what downward dog is all about; he'll be ego-stroked when she's sitting on the sidelines as he hits disc paydirt. Independence is good, interdependence is better.
Shot 4: They Take a Walk on the Wild Side
Routine is great when it comes to some things (like car maintenance), but routine can also be the drizzle on the tinder of a hot relationship. So, here's what you do: Identify one part of your relationship where you feel like you're in a rut, and find a way to break that routine. This will help you overcome the obstacles to sex that everyone faces.
It doesn't have to be a major overhaul, just subtle changes that send the message to your partner that you're going to keep the surprises coming. If Sunday is chores day, plan brunch out with a group of friends, instead-but make sure you order wisely each and every time (go ahead, have the Bloody Mary).
If you haven't had sex on a Monday since the Bangles were popular, hit the sack instead of watching the State of the Union Address on January 28th. (Big sacrifice, I know; just do it for of the state of your union!) If you resolve to change things up in 2008, you'll fire things up as well.
All Men Are The Same
this is a reprint that I thought was interesting
All Men Are The Same
For 15 years, I believed that 'al men were jerks because despite how much I tried to change things, I kept going through the same problems with men. If you have ever watched the movie, Groundhog Day (A weatherman finding himself living the same day over and over again -Staring Bill Murray- 1993) then you will start to understand how I was living. Perhaps you have been there with me. You try to keep yourself from being hurt and build something positive but you keep going through the same hurtful experiences each time with a different man.
I dated men that were not right for me and blamed them for all our problems. If he would just change into the man I first met or became the man I always wanted him to be then everything would be OK. I lived my life playing the waiting and blaming game -blaming him and then waiting for him to change so that I could be happy.Blame isn't all bad. It helps us decide who is responsible for what and what we need to be accountable for. However, the balance tips to unhealthy when we blame the other person for everything that is wrong. This type of blame takes away the opportunity of growth and personal responsibility and makes us victims. We are left with no choices and no power to act. Everything we want and hope to happen is given into the hands of the person that we feel is making our life intolerable.
The power to act and make changes requires personal responsibility. Rather than focusing on what needs to change in him we start focusing on our own growth. That means looking at how we are keeping the cycle repeating. It could be things like living with false hope about his feelings for us or denying his hurtful behavior. It could be our ideas about love and loyalty- perhaps they are built on infatuation and not reality. Or it could be a fear of speaking up or saying no and as a result we are put up with things we know are wrong.
It is not about men being all the same it's about realizing that we like and attract a certain type. Not all men are the same and by discovering why we attract who we do and then changing the pattern, we give ourselves freedom to discover other types of people.
Are All Men The Same - Written By Joanne Robinson Copyright 2008 Donna Intera
All Men Are The Same
For 15 years, I believed that 'al men were jerks because despite how much I tried to change things, I kept going through the same problems with men. If you have ever watched the movie, Groundhog Day (A weatherman finding himself living the same day over and over again -Staring Bill Murray- 1993) then you will start to understand how I was living. Perhaps you have been there with me. You try to keep yourself from being hurt and build something positive but you keep going through the same hurtful experiences each time with a different man.
I dated men that were not right for me and blamed them for all our problems. If he would just change into the man I first met or became the man I always wanted him to be then everything would be OK. I lived my life playing the waiting and blaming game -blaming him and then waiting for him to change so that I could be happy.Blame isn't all bad. It helps us decide who is responsible for what and what we need to be accountable for. However, the balance tips to unhealthy when we blame the other person for everything that is wrong. This type of blame takes away the opportunity of growth and personal responsibility and makes us victims. We are left with no choices and no power to act. Everything we want and hope to happen is given into the hands of the person that we feel is making our life intolerable.
The power to act and make changes requires personal responsibility. Rather than focusing on what needs to change in him we start focusing on our own growth. That means looking at how we are keeping the cycle repeating. It could be things like living with false hope about his feelings for us or denying his hurtful behavior. It could be our ideas about love and loyalty- perhaps they are built on infatuation and not reality. Or it could be a fear of speaking up or saying no and as a result we are put up with things we know are wrong.
It is not about men being all the same it's about realizing that we like and attract a certain type. Not all men are the same and by discovering why we attract who we do and then changing the pattern, we give ourselves freedom to discover other types of people.
Are All Men The Same - Written By Joanne Robinson Copyright 2008 Donna Intera
A baller???
I know I haven't blogged in a while, but here it goes....
I have had my ups and downs, my ins and outs with the game of life. To this date, I can say that I haven't had an official date in over a year. Don't get me wrong, I have had offers, but things didnt pan out too well. One guy thought I needed "a baller" because my typical date is a dinner and movie, and he wanted me to go with him to a sports bar, get a brew and some wings, and play a round or two of pool. I had to laugh at this notion because he asked me where I wanted to go. when I told him, he couldn't handle it. Why ask a girl on a date if you don't have the funds to take her out to somewhere nice. Maybe I am too critical.
I have had my ups and downs, my ins and outs with the game of life. To this date, I can say that I haven't had an official date in over a year. Don't get me wrong, I have had offers, but things didnt pan out too well. One guy thought I needed "a baller" because my typical date is a dinner and movie, and he wanted me to go with him to a sports bar, get a brew and some wings, and play a round or two of pool. I had to laugh at this notion because he asked me where I wanted to go. when I told him, he couldn't handle it. Why ask a girl on a date if you don't have the funds to take her out to somewhere nice. Maybe I am too critical.
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
Proving Me Right
I would like to thank everyone that has sent me emails or notes responding to my open letter. As I have had many positive responses, at the same time, a weasel gets in and proves me right.
Case in point, a guy using the Yahoo ID jessejamescollado. I talked to him 3 times on Yahoo IM in the span of 3 months. Twice this guy asks me if I have a cam. From past experience, anytime a guy asks a girl for her cam, he wants a free peep show. Yes, I shut him down twice. The third time he asked me for pics. I am sitting here like WTF? When I point it out to him that he is a pervert asking me for my cam twice, he tried to deny that he has ever talked to me. (ok, do I have stupid written across my forehead?) When I pointed it out to him that I had chatted with him 3 times, he acted like he had NO CLUE! C'mon really? Hell, i even gave him an alibi by saying that someone may have been playing on your Yahoo. He actually answered yes! I promptly told him that he needs to stop playing games, called him a pervert for the 3rd time and put him in the Super Iggy Bin.
Case in point, a guy using the Yahoo ID jessejamescollado. I talked to him 3 times on Yahoo IM in the span of 3 months. Twice this guy asks me if I have a cam. From past experience, anytime a guy asks a girl for her cam, he wants a free peep show. Yes, I shut him down twice. The third time he asked me for pics. I am sitting here like WTF? When I point it out to him that he is a pervert asking me for my cam twice, he tried to deny that he has ever talked to me. (ok, do I have stupid written across my forehead?) When I pointed it out to him that I had chatted with him 3 times, he acted like he had NO CLUE! C'mon really? Hell, i even gave him an alibi by saying that someone may have been playing on your Yahoo. He actually answered yes! I promptly told him that he needs to stop playing games, called him a pervert for the 3rd time and put him in the Super Iggy Bin.
Friday, March 21, 2008
My IM messages breakdown
I know a lot of people have asked about my Yahoo IM messages that are displayed beside my name. Well here is a small breakdown of the common messages so people wont be sending that famous acronym WTF??
Calling Ghetto Dr. Phil - I am chatting with someone that has a lot of issues and need someone that will give them objective advice. Sometimes they listen, most times they don't, and what I tell them comes full circle.
Having a Pinky and Brain moment - (If you ever watched cartoons, think of the Animaniacs' Pinky and the Brain.) This is twofold; If I am having a bad day at the office, the sign will go up. 95% of the time, it is my crazy-ass 'boss' in NC that has hatched another hair-brained scheme to take over the world, and I as his president tries not to attempt to catch a case (or commit myself under a 51-50) trying to stop him.
VoluptuousDCDiva - I'm in a basic Diva mood. Most of the time I am ranting about something in my personal life.
KARMUL - I am working on something related to Karmul. Simply hit me up and I'll tell you what's new on the Karmul horizon.
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
I'm (not) in love with a stripper - Catherine Price
I'm (not) in love with a stripper
I was tempted to kick off the morning with a piece about gubernatorial sex scandal. (I'm not even talking about Eliot Spitzer -- check out this article on David and Michelle Paterson's admitted infidelities.) But then I thought, screw that. I'd rather write about strip clubs.
Did anyone else catch this little nugget Monday from the Associated Press? Titled "Man Files Suit, Claims Lap Dance Injury," it briefly recounts the travails of a man named Stephen Chang, a securities trader who has filed a lawsuit against the Hot Lap Dance Club in Manhattan for injuries he sustained when "a stripper giving a lap dance swiveled and smacked him in the face with the heel of her shoe."
First, a note to Mr. Chang: Please accept my condolences for what could very well be a serious injury. If this was a stripper of the sort one frequently sees in the background of music videos, those heels were likely to have been quite high -- not to mention pointy. If this is anything involving your eye, then disregard the rest of this post and write me off as an asshole. (Update: According to the lawsuit, Mr. Chang did suffer an eye injury. I apologize. But as a general point, I still stand by what follows.)
Provided that's not the case, though, I have a question: Are you stupid? There are certain activities that come with risks. Try kiteboarding, for example, and a sudden gust of wind could smack you down on the water and break your back. Go base-jumping and there's a chance you might splatter. Surround yourself with scantily clad women whose entire job is to gyrate around your body in stilettos, and one in several million times, a heel is going to land in your face. Under normal circumstances, she would have gotten an extra tip for being so flexible.
So what are the possible long-term implications of this lawsuit? I imagine a world in which strip clubs start to resemble ski rental shops, requiring clients to sign lengthy liability waivers before they're allowed to try out the equipment. It reminds me of a release form I once saw at a bar that had a mechanical bull (proudly labeled as "The Best Buckin' Ride Ever"). The form -- which was several pages long -- could be summarized by one simple statement (which for some reason I have saved on my computer): "Mechanical bull riding has inherent dangers." So does hiring a woman to throw her leg over your shoulder and hump your lap. Consider yourself warned.
-- Catherine Price
I was tempted to kick off the morning with a piece about gubernatorial sex scandal. (I'm not even talking about Eliot Spitzer -- check out this article on David and Michelle Paterson's admitted infidelities.) But then I thought, screw that. I'd rather write about strip clubs.
Did anyone else catch this little nugget Monday from the Associated Press? Titled "Man Files Suit, Claims Lap Dance Injury," it briefly recounts the travails of a man named Stephen Chang, a securities trader who has filed a lawsuit against the Hot Lap Dance Club in Manhattan for injuries he sustained when "a stripper giving a lap dance swiveled and smacked him in the face with the heel of her shoe."
First, a note to Mr. Chang: Please accept my condolences for what could very well be a serious injury. If this was a stripper of the sort one frequently sees in the background of music videos, those heels were likely to have been quite high -- not to mention pointy. If this is anything involving your eye, then disregard the rest of this post and write me off as an asshole. (Update: According to the lawsuit, Mr. Chang did suffer an eye injury. I apologize. But as a general point, I still stand by what follows.)
Provided that's not the case, though, I have a question: Are you stupid? There are certain activities that come with risks. Try kiteboarding, for example, and a sudden gust of wind could smack you down on the water and break your back. Go base-jumping and there's a chance you might splatter. Surround yourself with scantily clad women whose entire job is to gyrate around your body in stilettos, and one in several million times, a heel is going to land in your face. Under normal circumstances, she would have gotten an extra tip for being so flexible.
So what are the possible long-term implications of this lawsuit? I imagine a world in which strip clubs start to resemble ski rental shops, requiring clients to sign lengthy liability waivers before they're allowed to try out the equipment. It reminds me of a release form I once saw at a bar that had a mechanical bull (proudly labeled as "The Best Buckin' Ride Ever"). The form -- which was several pages long -- could be summarized by one simple statement (which for some reason I have saved on my computer): "Mechanical bull riding has inherent dangers." So does hiring a woman to throw her leg over your shoulder and hump your lap. Consider yourself warned.
-- Catherine Price
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